Imagine coming home from work without informing your partner and you find him/her engaging in a romp with another person, going to be heart-wrenching right? Nobody deserves the pain of being cheated on neither is it a good thing to engage in cheating. It is better and more reasonable to remain single than to be in a relationship where you disrespect, disregard, and emotionally torture the person you claim to love.
It is not in the nature of anybody to cheat because cheating is created and made by man for selfish reasons. However, there’s what to do that can help a cheating partner bring his unpalatable desire under subjection, this is according to study.
Just like any other addiction, or alcoholism, cheating is an acquired behavior. By this I mean, a cheat might loathe his or her behavior at the first instance of that condemnable demeanor – but if he does it again and again, he’d likely gets used to it and lose every sense of remorse, and then it becomes a norm.
What is cheating?
Cheating is not just infidelity but anything you do that you do not want your partner to know about. Does your partner know your phone password? Do they know about the last hangout you had? and lots more, all of these amount to cheating or the onset of it.
However, there is a way out of this shady behavior but only for those who are willing to stop the said dastardly act. whatever your reason is, cheating is not good.
And so, to stop cheating, do the following:
Practice Total Transparency In Your Relationship
If you want to stay faithful in your relationship, then be very open to your partner by all means and about everything. After all, there’s “no privacy in a relationship”. You cannot allow them access to your private body parts and then feel it’s okay to hide your chats and phone calls from them. This lays credence to the point about cheating being whatever you do that you are hiding from your partner. The moment you do not give them access to everything about your life is when you start becoming vulnerable to other people. But when you are open as a book, it leaves you with a sense of being responsible to the one you love. Transparency is the best recipe for trust, and so, if you want to be trusted, be transparent.
Discipline is the basis for self-control. If you do not stop feeding the things that cause you to cheat, you’d likely continue to cheat. For instance, when some people get tipsy, they develop the urge to cheat. So if you know alcohol fuels that kind of behavior and it makes you unable to control yourself, why not quit locations or friends that encourage you to drink? It might be very difficult to gain self-control initially but you can develop the habit of saying NO when the temptations come.
There’s nothing to gain but everything to lose from cheating
Other than a very short-term pleasure, there’s nothing anyone has gained from cheating. Although some people cheat in a bid to get back at their partner, the act does not benefit the cheat other than some sexual vanities and pleasure. In fact, oftentimes, people who cheat spend money, waste time and fortune in order to do that. Meanwhile, if you do not cheat, you’d not need to expend your income because of another person other than the one you love. So if you want to stop cheating, get a book and write the financial and other implications of doing the act – you will get discouraged.
Get Some Professional Outside Help
It is possible to get professional help for every type of addiction including the knack for cheating. You may not be able to get over that behavior if you’re not desperate about turning a new leave. However, getting a professional to help you out is also a starting point to overcoming cheating behavior.
Professionals will help you find out why you act the way you do and profer the solution to get you healed. They’d help you disconnect from the root cause of cheating even if it means telling you to stay away from some friends.
Avoid Friends Who Cheat
Just like people are our greatest currency, they can also destroy your life. To stop cheating, only tag along with people who share the values and principles that you desire to adopt. It will be very easy to stop a given habit if the people around discourage you from doing so but in the instance where they are serial cheats, they’d constantly rope you in on their dirty habits.