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5 Things You Should Do If You Want Your Ex Back

True love is a beautiful feeling that is lavished with powerful emotion. If you are in love, nothing else would matter to you other than the satisfaction, wellbeing, and happiness of your partner. On the contrary, heartbreak leaves you despair, sad, disappointed, weighed down, and wishing you’d forever remain in the life of that person who you sincerely loved – this makes moving on really difficult because if you’ve ever fallen in love, you’d realize that the feeling of love cannot be permanently erased.

Are you currently sulking over a broken relationship? It is possible to re-attract your ex back into your life.

There’s the story of Morgan and Cindy who fell in love and dated for one and a half years. They were living together for the period within which they dated but Cindy had cause to move to another City – they started to argue unnecessarily because both of them didn’t fancy a long-distance relationship.

But then, Cindy still moved out but before she did, they reached an agreement to end their fairy tale relationship. According to Cindy, they were not in contact for up to three years, I mean 36 months without a phone call, text, or whatsoever means of communication.

Three years after the break-up, Morgan liked an Instagram post of Cindy. Of course, it came as a pleasant surprise for her. Consequently, she bit the bullet and liked his own new Instagram post, and they began exchanging likes before he slid into her DM.

They got chatting and even though Cindy wanted them to be “just friends”, they couldn’t control the feelings they had for each other, and they got back together and their love became even stronger and better.

The crux of this discussion is that we all have our shortcomings, and it takes compromises to make a relationship endure the taste of time. However, this is not an excuse for toxicity or any form of verbal abuse or domestic violence. So, if you call time on your relationship on the basis of any form of abuse, it will be better not to go back no matter the gimmicks of your ex.

And then, there are people who have broken up their relationship because they feel they are not compatible with their partners, and they have gone on to fall in love and even marry other partners. There’s no formula for a successful relationship but there are ways you can lure your former lovers back into your life – albeit, this is for those who want their exes back into their lives.

Now, let’s take a swipe at how to re-attract your ex.

Forgive and absorb yourself of any guilt

In the instance where you are responsible for the break-up, you’ve got to forgive yourself because humans are liable to make mistakes. If you do not forgive yourself, you may never feel worthy of the love of your ex.

Forgiving yourself opens you up to the possibility of a fresh start. You know, nobody is perfect and everybody deserves a second chance.

GO MIA

Do you know why a lot of people return to their exes after a breakup and have romped with them? They miss the friendship, partnership, and kind of love they were given by their former lovers. Some people would offer friendship after a break-up but that’s a recipe for further troubles and disrespect.

So, it is better to stay in your lane and go missing for as long as possible. If you were good to them and you do this, they’d realize your worth and possibly come to the conclusion that you’re the best person for them.

Do Not Aim A Sly Dig On Your Partner Via Social Media Posts

Resist the temptation of making posts on social media that tacitly calls out your partner. Even if they left the relationship, it is best you take all your complaints off a space where they are likely going to see it. If you do so, you’d appear as the weakling who is just trying to garner attention and pity through negativity.

Regardless of how you feel, it is best you deal with your situation personally, this will make your ex hold you in high esteem as it is childish to post negativity about your past relationship on the internet.

Take a Good Time Off Relationship

Just as it takes time to build a loving relationship, it also takes time for love to fade. If you jump into another relationship without properly getting healed, chances are that you’d be the toxic one in the new relationship which may not even last.

Jennifer broke up with her man of six years, and just a few weeks later, she had started posting pictures of her new man on social media and always tagged it “Fresh Start”. Maybe she thought it would get her ex jealous, it should but it was obvious that she was not focusing on herself but her ex. That relationship did last long because she did build the relationship but jumped into it.

It is best you get busy after a break-up. Go back to school, hit the gym, read more books, engage in more productive relationships, this way you’d become even more attractive to all who have ever truly loved you.

Make New Friends

Do not stay put and be waiting for your ex to change their mind and message you for a make-up.. Get on with life, meet new people, and aim to add value to the lives of your new friends because you have become a new version of yourself.

Explore

You’ve got to start doing the things you fantasize about. You can take a trip to a place that you’ve never been to and then, take pictures and publish them on your social media pages. The idea of traveling and posting pictures is not because you want your ex to see them, but you want to be happy and attract other people in your lives.

Your ex may notice and start thinking that they miss you, this is the pros of this action.

On a date with your ex

Growth is key to making a relationship long-lasting. If you try to get your ex back and he/she discover that you have not grown in any way, chances are that they won’t fancy taking you back into their life again. The better you are, the more attractive you become.

So, if you get a chance to meet with your ex-lover again, there are things you can do to appear very attractive, thus:

  • Do not get cozy but focus on just having fun.
  • Forget about your feelings and keep mute over it
  • Resist the urge to talk about getting back together as an item
  • Avoid PDA’s even if they try to be clingy
  • Appear calm and patient
  • Don’t say you miss them
  • Don’t ask if they are in a relationship

If you follow these rules, there’s a huge chance that the feelings they had for you would be rekindled and they might start talking about getting back together.

The aforementioned rules would seem like you are not desperate about getting back with them because desperation can turn off anybody.

When some people get a chance to have a date with their ex, they get carried away and begin the relationship talk. You cannot do that because you want the attraction to be natural, not that you are coercing them to take you back. The main focus of any date with your ex should not be about talking about your past but just hanging out and having fun as though a relationship never existed.

Bottom Line

Everybody abhors pride, so when your ex contacts you and you want them back, you should respond appropriately and make it work. And if there are demeanors or treatment that you meted to your ex while in the relationship, you must outgrow that sort of behavior to make the new relationship work.

 

 

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