True love is a beautiful feeling that is lavished with powerful emotions. If you are in love, nothing else would matter to you than the satisfaction, wellbeing, and happiness of your partner. On the contrary, heartbreak leaves you in despair, sad, disappointed, weighed down, and wishing you’d forever remain in the life of that person who you sincerely loved.
This makes moving on really difficult. You can relate to this if you’ve ever fallen in love. You’d realize sometimes you just want your ex back because the feeling of love cannot be permanently erased.
Are you currently sulking over a broken relationship? It is possible to re-attract your ex back into your life.
There’s the story of Morgan and Cindy who fell in love with each other and dated for one and a half years. They were living together for the period which they dated but Cindy had good reasons to move to another City.
Despite his pleas for her not to leave, she still moved out. But before she did, they reached an agreement to end their relationship. According to Cindy, they were not in contact for up to three years, I mean 36 months without a phone call, text, or whatsoever means of communication.
Three years after the break-up, Morgan liked an Instagram post of Cindy. Of course, it came as a pleasant surprise for her. Consequently, she bit the bullet and liked his own new Instagram post and they began exchanging likes before he sent her a private message.
They got chatting and even though Cindy wanted them to be “just friends”, they couldn’t control their feelings. They got back together and their love became even stronger and better.
We all have our shortcomings and it takes compromises to make a relationship endure the taste of time. However, this is not an excuse for toxicity or any form of verbal abuse or domestic violence. So, if you end your relationship on the basis of any form of abuse, it will be better not to go back no matter the tricks employed by your ex.
There’s no formula for a successful relationship but there are ways you can redirect your former lovers back into your life. This is for those who want their exes back into their lives.
Now, let’s take a look at how to re-attract your ex.
Figure Out the Cause Of the Break-up
Chances are that you are responsible for the break-up. A lot of people who exhibit toxic traits are unaware that they have such traits. But if you are aware of your toxic tendencies and you are deliberate about growth, you would ensure that you treat your partner very well if you are back with them.
Figuring out the cause of a break-up will ultimately help you to avoid the same incident in the future.
Forgive and Absolve Yourself of Any Guilt
In the instance where you are responsible for the break-up, you’ve got to forgive yourself because humans are liable to make mistakes. If you do not forgive yourself, you may never feel worthy of the love of your ex.
Forgiving yourself opens you up to the possibility of a fresh start. You know, nobody is perfect and everybody deserves a second chance.
No Contact Period
Do you know why a lot of people return to their exes after a breakup and have romped with them? They miss the friendship, partnership, and kind of love they were given by their former lovers. Some people would offer friendship after a break-up but that’s a recipe for further trouble and disrespect.
So, it is better to stay in your lane and go missing for as long as possible. If you were good to them and you do this, they’d realize your worth and possibly come to the conclusion that you’re the best person for them.
Do Not Indirectly Talk About Your Ex Partner Via Social Media Posts
Resist the temptation of making posts on social media that indirectly calls out your partner. Even if they left the relationship, it is best you take all your complaints off a space where they are likely going to see it. If you do so, you’d appear as the weakling who is just trying to garner attention and pity through negativity.
Regardless of how you feel, it is best you deal with your situation personally. This will make your ex hold you in high esteem as it is childish to post negativity about your past relationship on the internet. The internet is a hub of strangers, nobody really cares about you.
Take a Good Time Off Relationship
Just as it takes time to build a loving relationship, it also takes time for love to fade. If you jump into another relationship without properly getting healed, chances are that you’d be the toxic one in the new relationship which may not even last.
Jennifer broke up with her man of six years and just a few weeks later, she had started posting pictures of her new man on social media and always tagged it “Fresh Start”. Maybe she thought it would get her ex jealous. It was obvious that she was not focusing on herself but her ex. That relationship did not last long because she did build the relationship but jumped into it.
It is best you get busy after a break-up. Go back to school, hit the gym, read more books, engage in more productive relationships, this way you’d become even more attractive to all who have ever truly loved you.
Make New Friends
Do not stay put and be waiting for your ex to change their mind and message you for a make-up. Get on with life, meet new people, and aim to add value to the lives of your new friends because you have become a new version of yourself.
You’ve got to start doing the things you fantasize about. You can take a trip to a place that you’ve never been to and then, take pictures and publish them on your social media pages. The idea of traveling and posting pictures is not because you want your ex to see them, but because you want to be happy and attract other people into your life.
Your ex may notice and start thinking that they miss you, this is the pros of this action.
Reach Out To Talk
If you have decided to get back your ex, you have to make a move to make it happen. An honest conversation between you two can reveal what you need to do to get back together again.
On a date with your ex?
Growth is key to making a relationship long-lasting. If you try to get your ex back and he/she discovers that you have not grown in any way, chances are that they won’t fancy taking you back into their life again. The better you are, the more attractive you become.
So, if you get a chance to meet with your ex-lover again, there are things you can do to appear very attractive, thus:
- Do not get cozy but focus on just having fun.
- Forget about your feelings and keep mute over it.
- Resist the urge to talk about getting back together as an item.
- Avoid PDA’s even if they try to be clingy.
- Appear calm and patient.
- Don’t say you miss them.
- Don’t ask if they are in a relationship.
If you follow these rules, there’s a huge chance that the feelings they had for you would be rekindled and they might start talking about getting back together.
The aforementioned rules would seem like you are not desperate about getting back with them because desperation can turn off anybody.
When some people get a chance to have a date with their ex, they get carried away and begin the relationship talk. You cannot do that because you want the attraction to be natural, not that you are coercing them to take you back. The main focus of any date with your ex should not be to talk about your past but just hang out and have fun as though a romantic relationship never existed.
Everybody abhors pride, so when your ex reaches out to you and you want them back, you should respond appropriately and make it work. If there are demeanors or treatment that you meted at your ex while in the relationship, you must outgrow that sort of behavior to make the new relationship work.