Do you feel an emotional rush when you talk with someone you like? How about when you get tired of the relationship? You’d probably be wondering where the magic is gone, right? Just as people fall in love, they can also fall out of love because the relationship has lost its spark.
There are things you can do to get the relationship back on track. A relationship is built and it takes conscious effort to make it work.
Let’s look at a few reasons why Relationships fail and how to get them back:
You don’t spend time together
When you don’t spend quality time together, it leads to a decrease in intimacy, which lead to a decrease in attraction. When there is a loss of attraction, communication suffers, and a negative cycle develops, leading to frustration and further separation. You stop holding hands, cuddling, and giving warm hugs, and compliments.
You’d prefer to spend your time with your friends rather than your partner. Unconsciously, a temporary state of disconnection becomes a habit. The priority of spending time together shifts from “tomorrow” to “next week,” and then to “never.”
Introduce some excitement into your relationship. Finding new activities, tv shows and hobbies you both enjoy can healthily change your routine and help you spend some quality time together.
Mismatched sex drives
Intimacy is an essential component of a vistas relationship. Couples’ bonds and emotional connections are strengthened by sex.
The bedroom is your sanctuary to reconnect and rejuvenate. If there isn’t enough action in the bedroom, you may lose that spark sooner than expected. When one partner desires a lot of sex and the other does not, it puts a lot of stress on the relationship and can ruin the spark.
Having a mutually satisfying sex life, whatever that means to each of you, is critical to bringing your relationship back to life. If sex is not something you both do spontaneously, schedule it. Explore what turns you on as an individual and strengthen your bond.
Constant squabbles over things that mostly don’t matter can really take both of you down. Sometimes it can be a result of work. Some people vent their workplace angst on their partners. Simple disagreements end up in hostile silence or a screaming match.
If you don’t know how to handle your disagreements effectively, harbouring anger or resentment sets in. This wears on the spark in the relationship.
Instead of hiding your feelings, sit your partner down and talk to each other. Lessen the anger, draw a clear picture of your feeling, and discuss them with your significant other. Every healthy relationship needs constant and open chit-chat.
Keeping secrets is a hotbed for betrayal. Unrevealed things can make partners feel apart and unattached.
When you aren’t entirely yourself with your partner, you hold things back and spare them your deepest truth by telling lies. Even with the best intentions, dishonesty leaves a noticeable scar on trust and mars your connection.
True love is about being honest. Let your partner see you, all of you. Tell the truth even if it scares you.
Perfection is the enemy of good. Fairy tales are only designed to inspire you to believe in happy love stories. When you hold your partner to some unrealistically high expectations, you are in for a world of disappointments and pain.
You do not think regular disappointments and pain would fuel the spark in your relationship, do you? You expect your partner to look good always. You expect them to always plan the date night and basically pay for everything.
You expect them to apologize first all the time. You expect them to read your mind and fill the void in your life every single time. Just, stop.
Not everything needs to be perfect. Never label your partner according to the fantasy you have in your head.
The important factor in reviving the spark in your relationship is that you and your partner want the same thing. If one of you isn’t interested in making it work, the relationship deteriorates.
Take some time to think about the first phase of your relationship and ask yourself what was different. Reflect on the qualities of your partner that you love and cherish.
We all have flaws. Every relationship is unique. The smallest spark can become a roaring blaze. Once the fore has reached its full potential, you maintain it and it stays strong, or you neglect it and it dies.
Most relationships go through tough times and revive.